Was It Hard To Get a Vasectomy?
Nicole from Facebook asked me if it was difficult for me to get a vasectomy at my young age and given my childfree status. The answer is both yes and no, but we’ll go into a bit more detail here.
This is purely anecdotal evidence, but I will say this: I’ve talked to many men who had vasectomies younger than me. I’ve talked to someone who had a vasectomy as young as 19 years old, and several 21 year olds who had vasectomies. I think it largely depends on geographic location and, admittedly, what’s the dominant religion of that area. If the dominant religion is Catholicism, it’s probably going to be a lot harder.
I started seeking vasectomy at age 20. I went to several doctors in my hometown in Texas at the time. My hometown is very conservative Church of Christ, with 2/3 of the population being CoC. They take the “be fruitful and multiply” command very seriously, and are almost as conservative as Catholics in that regard. It was all but impossible for me to get a vasectomy there, and I talked to several doctors, but none of them would do it.
So I gave up temporarily and decided I’d try again in a couple of years. I was a virgin at the time and had no plans of having any sexual relations at all for awhile. When I moved to Idaho for my short stint as a graduate student (that lasted every bit of nine months), I got into my first serious relationship that turned sexual in a hurry. Luckily for me my girlfriend was naturally sterile, so it wasn’t that big of an issue. However, when we broke up, it was a real wake-up call for me that I really should get it taken care of.
So I scheduled an appointment with a urologist that specializes in the groundbreaking vasectomy technology known as “no-needle, no-scalpel” vasectomy (and I will post my experiences with this vasectomy method a little later). The doctor said he was also childfree by choice, understood my decision, and I got absolutely no resistance from the doctor and he more than willingly operated on me. It was finally a done deal, much to my relief.
One last thing I should probably add is this: it’s much easier for the childfree man to get a vasectomy than it is for the childfree woman to get a tubal ligation. I think this is a bit of a gender equality issue, and I really think it shouldn’t be. The argument could be made that tubal ligation is a much more invasive operation, but why should doctors be able to tell us what we do with our bodies? I think there should be a law that states that doctors cannot refuse to sterilize someone on the grounds of the number of children they have (including none), or at the very least should require doctors to refer you to someone who will.
Are you a childfree man/woman who is sterilized? Share your experiences in the comments!